阻止亚裔在西方职场晋升的通常不是工作不勤奋，技术不行，而是建立关系的能力-how you make an impression. 刚刚读完卡耐基的How to win friends and influence people, 觉得里面的原则很符合西方职场里为人处世的逻辑： [一R]换位思考，表达你有在替对方着想的心思，比如: [向右R]和新上司建立关系，可以将平时的工作内容整理成一份PPT, 帮助老板迅速了解业务的同时，也留下了有条不紊的好印象: [栗子R]Here is a high level summary to provide you with an overview of the jobs on the go, feel free to let me know if you are after any further details. [向右R]在平日和同事沟通的过程中，也可以尝试利他性提问： [栗子R]节省时间: What approach would save you the most time? [栗子R]帮助对方拿结果: How can we best help you to achieve your goals? [栗子R]预见难点: Do you foresee any blockers that we can help with? [二R]Show Respect 想在工作中delegate work, 让别人采取你的意见，不能强行命令，需要巧妙引导，让别人觉得决定是自己做的，结论是自己得出来的, 沟通的语气就变得很关键，举个简单的例子： ❌命令式：Can we catch up at 4pm? ⭕: How does your schedule look like this afternoon? [三R]Make the person feel important 除了smalltalk的时候多围绕着别人的兴趣爱好聊天以外,还可以根据个人喜好，定制customized response， 比如从国内旅游回来给老板带了点礼物： ❌Here’s a gift for you. ⭕加强版:Last time we went for team lunch, I remember you liked jasmine tea. I brought these from China, please help yourself! [四R]Show sincere appreciation 获得了别人的帮助，不能忘记真诚具体地感谢，最好cc对方的manager, 让对方感到特有面子： [栗子R]Thank you for your exceptional dedication and problem solving amidst complex requirements and deadlines, the stakeholders are so impressed with the new design!