人，多数痛苦，源于自耗。本来几句话的事，本来心平气和能解决的事，却因为自卑、情绪上头、自我臆想而胡乱折腾。自己显得刻薄小气，别人也会觉得你不可理喻。人不能遇见事，就先折磨自己。

Most of people's pain comes from inner turmoil. Things that could be resolved with just a few words, things that could be settled calmly and rationally — instead, they are messed up by insecurity, emotional outbursts, and self-induced fantasies. You end up looking petty and mean, and others find you impossible to reason with. You must not torment yourself before you even face the problem.